I have a Guy friend that I have known for over 10years that I will call Raymond (not his real name). I met him at a model Convention. He was a Fan of one of my fellow Models. Every year he would come to most of all my conventions. He would hang out, help me if I needed anything, watch my booth for me if I needed to go to the Restroom or grab a bite to eat.
A few years ago he came to visit me on my birthday, I invited him to my surprise birthday party that my husband was throwing for me....hehe....yep you heard correct.....I knew he was throwing a surprise birthday party for me, but I pretended like I didn`t know.
After awhile Roy, all of Roy`s Friends (The LBC Wack Pack) be-friend-ed my Friend Raymond. Now Raymond is one of The Wack Pack. Raymond comes over every Monday for Our weekly Monday Night Dinners that I host. Raymond also comes out to our many outings and events. However he is usually broke, but that`s no biggy, since most of us are broke right now as well -so most of our events are frugal. Raymond says he is a 5th grade sub-teacher, but I doubt he works much if at all.
There are a lot of concerns we have with Raymond but do not know how to bring them up. One of the things -well, the biggest thing is, Raymond is usually always very dirty and stinks a lot.....I don`t mean just a little...I mean he REALLY Stinks! There is no way that I can bring it up to him, me being a girl, he would get too embarrassed, ashamed and disappear....I know him well enough that I know He would do that.
Once when Roy & I went on vacation, Raymond stayed in our house to house-sit & watch our cats. He did not stink that much then.....he used our shower but his clothes were still dirty. I`m thinking, he might not have access to a Shower all the time. We suspect that he lives in his car. Raymond`s car is extremely dirty and cluttered. I dropped him off at his 'home' once, but he insisted that I drop him off at a park nearby. I didn`t want to pry -so I did.
Roy & I want to help him, but we do not want to embarrass him either. The guys are complaining about his smell, it is getting worse. It is almost unbearable and I doubt it is healthy for him to be so dirty & stinky. I have to clean & scrub the house after he leaves. I cover the couches in towels that I wash right after he leaves.
I think it would be best that Roy have a one-on-one talk with Raymond.....but Roy needs to be careful in his words......I don`t want Raymond to be so embarrassed that he doesn`t come back.
I told Roy that Raymond is welcomed to come and use our shower and I will wash one set of clothes for him once a week, like maybe Monday before Monday Night Dinner.....but we need to approach this Carefully. Since it is Christmas time, I think I`m going to buy him a New Shirt, Shorts, Undies and Socks. I`ll ask him to try them on to see if they fit.....then take his dirty clothes and wash them. What do you think- you think it will work?